My Message To Bullies

If you could see into the future you would see that your words do not just affect your victim in that moment, but often for life. Your words cut like a knife and the scars remain. When you mock or tease another, your words start to affect them and their life. What you may perceive as a passing comment, after time becomes their truth.

They start to believe that they are ‘too fat, too ugly’ or ‘not enough’. It impacts their education, their friendships, their family and their whole life. Having worked with hundreds of children and teenagers who have been victims, I see the effect that you have.

Future relationships are affected, because your victims may live from a place of fear.

You suppress their talents, their gifts and their shine because they are too afraid to live as the beautiful and amazing person that they are.

Others suffer because they suffer.

Some get the right help and manage to re-discover their true self. Others live a limited life forever. Some take their own life.

I know that you bully others to make yourself feel better but I’d like you to know that you yourself are ‘enough’. If you want to feel better about yourself, then there is another way to and it’s a way that you will never regret. (I guarantee that if you continue as you are, in 10 years’ time you will have huge regrets because with age you will understand the consequences of your behaviour).

Make yourself feel good through acts of kindness. Instead of bringing others down, what could you do to life others up? How could you change your behaviour to have a positive impact on others? What could you do TODAY to make someone feel valued or appreciated? What could you to do CHANGE NOW?

I can’t make you change. I can’t stop you slamming doors in the faces of others. Nor can I stop your words or your physical violence.

All I ask is that you imagine for one moment dreading going to school or college every single day. Imagine experiencing both relentless emotional and physical pain for 5 days a week. Imagine turning on your social media to find that there is no escape and that the pain continues 7 days a week. Imagine the impact on your family if they were to see you suffering in such a way. Imagine your parents sobbing not knowing what to do, or where to turn.

I’m hoping that my words may encourage you to think twice. The next time you want to slam a door, instead open it with a smile. Instead of excluding people, make an effort to include them. Only share words of love, not words of hate. Try being kind to everyone for 24 hrs. Notice how good you feel. Notice how much better if feels to be this way.

I’m sharing this because I believe in you. You are not a bad person but a good person with some current negative behaviours. It’s not too late to change. It’s not too late to help, support and make life easier for others. It’s not too late to save a life.